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Devin Dearing's avatar

This is less about teamwork, but more about the unresolved energies afoot during the death rattle stages of late patriarchy. Husbands haven’t put down their confusion around not being ‘head of household’ and struggle because they have not been ‘skilled up’ to being contributing members of domestic life.

It stinks having them around cause they think they should have a say in how everything goes... but, they weren’t ever prepared for the job. So there’s constant training and resistance to training, etc. Modern heterosexual relationships are so extra.

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Claire Lovell 🏳️‍🌈's avatar

It’s often so much easier to do bedtime/dinner alone and give yourself permission to make your life easier. Like when I’m by myself I’m 100% making boxed mac n cheese or frozen pizza, letting the kids watch tv and immediately putting them to bed. When we’re all together I try harder and I’m also trying to meet my spouse’s expectations. Things like the kids should eat vegetables, we should sit at the table for dinner, or to floss the kid’s teeth. Instead if I remember to brush their teeth and they go to bed without me yelling I figure I’ve won.

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