Don't yuck my yum, or make me riff on a recipe

Food is fraught and beans are not bacon.

My idea of being a good mom is letting my older one tell me which of the three available school hot lunch options he would like, so I did not exactly identify with this recent NYT piece, “My Quest for Lunchbox Supremacy.” That said, this essay may have pushed my buttons a few years ago, as I was more tender about my journey to discovering that in my im…