Big feelings vs. being a weepy b.

Stop being such a crybaby

A full quarter of kids were out sick last week at my sons’ school. Meanwhile, school American schedules are still settling down between various holidays and for those of us in cold climes, there’s the extra layer of frayed snowpants and dirty coats and tiny wet gloves. It’s the prime season for: weepy-ass kids. With that in mind, I asked some witches how they deal when their kids melt down over everything but mostly nothing:

My kid has been such a weepy little b the last few days and I know I should be concerned/sympathetic/understand but instead I'm like ‘stop being such a weepy little b.’  

Things he has been weepy over already this morning:

-My husband refusing to get up and help him get dressed (he can dress himself.)
-not liking the jeans that were available to him
-me joking about buying all the Nutella in the world 🙄

I don't think he’s feeling 100%. So it's understandable, just, patience levels are low. 

How do you handle weepy kids in a crying-over-anything state? I don't mean how do you take care of their feelings, how do you manage not telling them to shut up and stop being damn crybabies?

“Thank God for witches where you can call your kid a bitch! #blessed I have no suggestions for you. After a lot of begging and pleading we got into someone's cancelled appointment for a child psychiatrist today instead of APRIL so fingers crossed they can help us find some relief!”

“Crying over pants is my life.”

“My older son was hysterical two days ago that his little bro got to do three ‘fun’ things (1 included feeding the stupid dog) and how it’s not fair he didn’t get to do as many fun things ?! STFU. On the other hand, we grabbed pizza last night and the table next to us was HS girls (looked innocent like they just came from Scholastic Bowl), and were talking about sexual stuff they do with their boyfriends - it made me ill thinking that we’re a decade out from that beast. I’ll take cry baby any day over sex!”

“I feel like you are right in that age where they are so fucking annoying all the time. AND they are super ridiculously cute, so people are always saying unhelpful stuff like ‘Enjoy this! So precious!’ So you just want to slap everyone.”

“I don't like the jeans available to me either, bud.”

“My daughter cries almost every morning when everyone else wakes up before her.”

“My newly six year old is a weepy little bitch all of the time, and I want to be like ‘If you are not pregnant then cut this shit out right now.’”

“My newly 7yo was crying last night because he's jealous his little sister gets to go to Little Beans all the time with grandma, and he never does, and the most unfair part about it, is that his sister doesn't even KNOW WHAT JEALOUS IS so she CAN'T feel jealous of all the stuff HE gets to do that she doesn't!”

“I literally told my son to stop his annoying whining and he said ‘I'm not whiiiiining I'm talking all normalllll’ (while whining of course).”

meghan b. kelly @meghanbkelly

@TheEvilWitches also if we're at home the rule is that you can feel your feelings as loud as you want, you just have to do it in your room with the door closed, so it at least saves us from hearing the wailing

Marcail M W @MarcailM

@TheEvilWitches For my 4.5 year old daughter, bribery and presents, sometimes. Therapy weekly (for me) or biweekly (for her). Lots of books about naming feelings. Excessive snuggles. And food. Like me, her emotions are closely tied to her hunger levels.

Hilary Woodward @hcwoodward

@TheEvilWitches If it's over something small, terribly, my impulse is to laugh, so I work on not doing that to their faces. Sometimes, I try to repeat back why they're crying so they feel understood, but then that just really underlines why they're upset & they cry more. In short, I wait it out.

meghan b. kelly @meghanbkelly

@TheEvilWitches I make a lot of sympathetic noises and say, "I know, it's really hard to do X when you want to Y" and then I furiously text my husband later "omg you will NOT believe what Kid A was crying about"

PaigeCasey @paigecasey

@TheEvilWitches My 9 & 12 yo are left to stew/rant/rage until one of us feels like being a good cop. Recently my 12 yo was banging around in his room & slamming things & my husband used an Alexa announcement to inform him that he’ll pay for what he breaks. It stopped.

Emily @themerriest

@TheEvilWitches For our almost-three, we ask him if he’s a sorrowful sea lion, a forlorn flamingo, a pouting pigeon, etc. until he laughs and then we say “AHA! I saw that smile.”

Rachel @Comfortablemess

@TheEvilWitches “Looks like you are having big feelings. I’ll be in the other room when you are done. “

Maggie Baran @baranpower

@TheEvilWitches If my 7 or 12 year old can’t stop, I tell them “well it looks like you’re just going to feel this way until you don’t feel this way anymore.” And I leave it at that with no further interference.

🎀🗽𝓒𝓵𝓪𝓲𝓻𝓮 🗽🎀 @halfwrittensong

@TheEvilWitches Give up and put them to bed.

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